The Role of Intuition in Daily Living with Professional Intuitive Hazel

The Role of Intuition in Daily Living with Professional Intuitive Hazel.

Today my guest is Hazel. Hazel is a friend who I often speak to on the phone. The topic of this show today is going to be How We Use Our Intuition in Living Our Daily Lives. I want to also talk about how we use our intuition in our interactions and relationships with other people. So, Hazel. Hello.

Hazel

Hello, Mercy. Good morning.  Good morning to everyone else.

Mercy

This is so common when Hazel and I talk. I have been walking around with a big question in my mind and a sort of a dilemma, and I’m not exactly sure what’s going to happen. And then I have a thought, somehow this is going to work out. Right. And then often what happens is, I get a call from Hazel, and that happened today. For anyone who was listening to the show last week, I’m still in Seattle and I’m helping my son move. The movers are coming tomorrow, and it’s been quite a project, I think as most people know who are making big moves.

I’ve been wondering, how am I going to do a radio show on the day that the movers are coming? I was thinking about all kinds of possibilities, wondering how I was going to pull this together. And then what happens? Hazel calls me. The last time Hazel and I talked, we talked about doing an interview like today. So here we are, how do you understand this? When this happens? It happens so frequently. I think on my birthday, I was walking around and I thought, well, wouldn’t it be nice to hear from Hazel today? And what do you know within 15 minutes, I got a call from Hazel.

Hazel

You do feel very good, and at ease throughout your day. You allowed without even being aware that you were allowing until it was done. And then you just thought about that. Never neglect giving yourself enough credit that you are the one that created that before it happened. That all the time you’ll speak about someone they will appear, they’ll call you. You’ll think about even the food and all the sudden one’s bringing it to you, or they’re even telling you they’re eating it themselves. And you’ll say, I was just thinking about it.  So you are creating daily at your finest.  And what you’re doing then receives without force. 

You know, a lot of times some people say, “Why can’t I create a million dollars?” Well, you are creating it. But in that moment of thinking why you can’t, the moment you just said it, that’s why it’s not presenting itself.

Mercy

I love that, just the reminder that, of that we create our experience. And I think part of what happens is people are thinking about the big things. Like, “I wish I had more money” or, “I really want to get married” or “I really want to have a child”, or “I really want to develop my career.” They are thinking about the big things and trying to manifest some big things.  But they’re not paying attention to how they’re creating all these little thing’s. What you could also call small coincidences.  We think people think of them as coincidences.  But they aren’t aware that of how much they are creating their daily experience. They don’t acknowledge or own the power that they have. That is evident every day,

Hazel

Every day, and not to mention we’re doing it every second, whether we realize it or not. So you’ll have millions and millions of creation that you have floating and you have that backlog. So as you go into the next day, you’ll say to yourself, “Man, I thought about that a week ago and here I am doing it.

That’s just how intensive your backlog is coming. And you don’t need to dwell on it. Once you send that desire out, know that it will be. You don’t need to keep dwelling on it. That causes confusion. You start creating a lot of lack. That happens a lot quicker because you never can forget how your emotion and the way you feel really plays a part in how fast it is to be. That is critical.  You have your backlog at play.

You have everything that you desired coming to you. And then a lot of times you got the skip line, where you’ll be feeling so intensely about something. Even if you are crying about it, a lot of times you got to be aware that you’ll be crying so intensely that all of a sudden the whole day goes to cahoots because you’re really giving so much power to that sadness that it’s amplifying it. You can do the same thing with your joy. You can wake up feeling so good and so happy and watch how a lot of those good things start amplifying from that joy. Your emotions really play a part in how fast you’re creating also, but it’s for purpose. It all comes in due time. It all comes, but nonetheless, it’s coming. That’s never to be.

Mercy

So, I have a question for you, in my profession, I trained as a psychotherapist, as a psychiatric social worker. The primary assumption that underlies a clinical practice, is a traditional or conventional one, is that there is such a thing as a normal healthy person and that when people are troubled or they’re feeling very down or they’re feeling very anxious or they’re having trouble doing what they want to do or their behavior is causing problems for other people. The assumption is that there’s something wrong with them. That these differences are an abnormality and that there’s something that needs to be cured or fixed. Does that make sense to you?

Hazel

There is a problem because they’re creating it. When you tell someone they need to be fixed either one or two things happen. They believe it, and they feel broken. Or, they say, no, I’m not broken. You’re the one that needs to be fixed. So it really boils down to how the person they’re saying that to is going to receive it. I prefer to go in a different direction with that myself when I am encountering two people that are affecting each other’s worlds in a way that the other feels as though the other is causing the problems. I know that it’s always a misunderstanding of communication to completely different views going on. And if you ask each one, what happened, they both would have a different story.

Because they’re either both upset about something, and one is reacting very intensely, and there’s a lot of finger pointing going on. So for me, I always want to embrace both sides of the story to really try to find balance and start there.  It depends on each individual situation. And I look at each situation as that, and don’t compare it to another. I look at it as an individual and try to figure out what’s going on. If you were to tell me that you spoke with John, and he’s broken.  I will need to speak with John myself and figure out why you came to that. But most importantly, see how John feels about himself. There are so many different reasons why someone would call one broken, but one thing for sure, everyone pretty much has someone that they’ve called broken and that person’s called them broken back. So who is really broken?

Mercy

That’s interesting, isn’t it? I think since I was young, I had this natural inclination or ability to see things from other people’s point of view. I was rarely bothered by someone else’s behavior, even if it was not what other people expected or thought was normal. I just thought it was interesting. 

When I was young, I was very introspective and sometimes, you could say moody. I don’t think other people would’ve called me moody, but looking back at it, I would. I had a certain way of thinking about things that was probably more related to the ways that my parents thought about things.

When I started to work with people as a therapist, I became curious. I was curious about what their experience was. Even though, I didn’t actually believe that I could cure somebody. There is a phrase in the world of psychoanalysis, it’s also become part of psychotherapy, is to have a corrective, emotional experience. I never felt like I was capable of giving someone a more important experience than they had with their parents. Or the right to be the perfect parent to an adult client. It never made any sense to me. So for me, I think what I had to offer people was more my curiosity and my interest in their experience. I didn’t really ever think that I could cure somebody.

It’s about going forward and using your path

Hazel

That person must find that within themselves.  They need to live out their own life experience to be able to make their own decisions, to be able to come through their own conclusions. It’s interesting to listen to what led up to them making that decision. And most importantly, what decisions are they wanting to make going forward. It’s about going forward and using your path. There’s not something to feel down about, but for something to feel good about that experience, loving that you survived it and to go forward.  It’s always focusing on what it is you are wanting to do. And a lot of times people can get very caught up and overly talking about the bad experiences to where they keep reliving it, reliving it, and not speaking enough about what it is they desire. You want to speak about what you’re desiring, what you’re wanting, so that you can always be creating that.  Having all of that coming for you as you go through your future and go forward. You want to be a little weary about that using past experiences for growth and trends, regardless of what it was. You have to navigate someone in that direction. It’s more about empowering and focusing more on where it is they are wanting to go.

And if they don’t know, because sometimes you’ll encounter that. You just don’t know what to feel like, all I know is sadness. I don’t even know what goodness to think of. You can say, “What would you like to do in this moment?” You focus on that moment, ask them what they would like to just do right now, and allow them to focus on that, but everyone’s completely different. To take on the burden of trying to fix someone is a burden you won’t be able to accomplish.

Mercy

Sometimes people want to focus on what is painful or how they get caught up in how things aren’t right. Or someone didn’t treat them right. Or a parent, they don’t understand their parent. I was talking to a young man today who has a young child that he’s totally enamoured with. And he doesn’t really talk to his father. His father never really gets in touch with him. And he can’t understand how his father, could have had a child the way he does, and ever get to the point of not wanting to talk to that child. It’s very hard for this young man to accept this about his father. I think that’s an example of someone who gets caught in the negative feelings about that situation.

Hazel

Mainly they are feeling that way because they’re wanting that person to be.  They need to separate that. They are who they are, and their father is who their father is. And you want to accept what their father is, is completely okay. Talking to them every day, they’re fine with that. That’s what they’re doing. And you can’t expect your desire to be everyone else’s desire. So the fact that you decided to speak to your child every day, that was your desire. And you want to bask in that. Enjoy that. You are living out what you are wanting to do, but to force your desire upon someone else, just because you believing is right, whether it’s right or wrong, that’s not the question. The point is, this is how their father chooses is to live and they want to be able to embrace that difference.

That’s all they can do. Know that their father doesn’t speak to them every day. Know that’s the way he is. That’s the way he’s always been. You want embrace the difference. It does not mean you have to like it, but you can’t change it. And you don’t want to tell them how they need to live their life because that causes more conflict. The father’s at peace living the way that he believes is best and easier for his life. Even what the son doesn’t like. That’s his father’s choice.

We all have our free will. It doesn’t mean that we like the decisions that everyone makes. So, but we have own free will. So the son needs to separate that.

Mercy

One of the reasons I enjoy our conversation so much is that you can often hone in on really what the heart is, what’s really going on between two people. And sometimes you can see that things are really okay. And other times you can see that this really isn’t a good situation. It’s interesting because in my work, I’ve worked with a much more analytical approach. What I found as the years went on, is that I would get a very strong sense about a situation and about what was important about it. Because I could see that there were many variables and that logically there was not a particular logical way to choose which of these 20 variables or aspects of a person’s situation were important. What I found is that I was using my intuition. I started to call my analytical template my tea leaves. I would look at them, then what was important would pop out. 

Mercy

Hazel, I wanted to ask you if you could talk a little bit about how you developed to be a master in the intuitive arts. How did you begin to develop or use your intuition?  How do you understand it? How would you describe it?

Hazel

I was very aware that I was able to feel the emotions and I would hear a clear knowing of something before it happened. And I feel aware because as these thoughts would come to me and I see it play out. I would say to myself, wow, I knew that. And then I became aware that when I am around certain groups or when I go in certain stores, I can always identify the emotions of ones that are within my sight. Or, if I focus in on one person, I would get a certain knowing about them.  It’s more of an awareness now, as I became more aware of this,  I realized that I should say something. So I started doing that and I noticed that until things play out, it is very difficult for some to really embrace what you are saying.

I learned to realize that there is no need for me to ever attempt to force someone to believe what I’m saying.  I allow them to just live it.  And if they choose to do something different, that’s wonderful. And if they don’t, then that was for its purpose. And the next time they will be able to make a different decision. As I became more aware, I just started embracing and listening to it. And there are moments where it can be intimidating because I can also become aware of a feeling that something is also about to go wrong. So I have to learn to embrace that part also. I have to also be able to embrace that no matter what it is, even though it’s not feeling right, I will be okay and I will overcome it.

I started looking at that feeling differently.  I came to realize that the feeling even allows me to start being able to create at my finest. I started having such counteractive thoughts to that feeling that I am able to shift things around by just not letting that feeling become so abundant. The question became more aware and I embraced it and I live by it. Even when it’s something that I do not like that, I know there is good and there is bad. We always have that law of harmony. And I know that the bad is also serving its purpose and that the good will always get corrected. I find such peace in that. It allows me to be able to handle moments that a lot of people would get really caught up in and find very devastating. I find it to be a friend, and I grow from it and I know there’s no gain in dwelling on it.  I love my awareness of that and I live it. So, I wouldn’t say developed, I more became aware. And if I became aware, I embrace it with just going with the flow. But most importantly, it’s never more than you can bear no matter what, never more goodness you can handle never more bad you can handle.

Mercy

Listening to you talk I’m reminded of the time when I decided to become a therapist. I had just moved to New York City and I was looking for a job. I was reading a book called “What Colors is Your Parachute.?” It’s probably in its 15th edition by now. One of the questions they ask was if you had all the money you needed and you didn’t have to work, what would you love to do? This was a way of choosing your career. And at the time I was spending a lot of time alone because the friend that I was staying with was working up in Albany. She wasn’t in the city. 

I was walking around the city and I love New York City. I love the energy. I was a young woman and I would just sit and watch people go by. I was a big people watcher. I remember at lunchtime, watching people walk by and every person that walked by, I would get a picture in my mind of what they were thinking about, where they were going, what they were doing, something about their life. I thought of it as a game that I was playing, because I was so curious about the inner world of people walking around. It reminds me of this scene where Bruce Willis is an actor in the movie.

He walks through Penn Station. And, he sees this man who’s a criminal and he looks at him and he gets this whole hologram picture of his life. It’s kind of a magical thing. And that’s how I felt it was for me. It was also a game I played. And that’s when I decided, I’m really interested in what’s going on inside of people, I should become a therapist. 

The other thing was my favorite book when I was about 12 or 13, was about a girl who got hit on the head. And when she got hit on the head, she could hear the thoughts of other people. And then she eventually got hit on the head and lost it again. And I just thought that was amazing. That that would be the most amazing thing would be to hear the thoughts of other people.

Hazel

It can be very stimulating.

Mercy

I mean, it’s one thing to hear what people are thinking. It’s another thing to see a bigger picture of their life. And sometimes bigger than what they can see. Sometimes, it’s usually easier to see that for other people than for ourselves.

Hazel

You always want to focus on your bigger picture for yourself.

You never want to lose focus on always making sure you’re allowing yourself to have lots of manifestations for your world more than anything.

Mercy

And what I did, I started reading Carl Jung. I was interested in my dreams and kept a dream journal. Then I worked for a psychoanalyst and I think as my whole career was developing I went to school to become a clinical social worker. It’s interesting because I think that intuitive part of me was not what I was really paying attention to. I was paying attention to learning this framework and this knowledge that was basically taught in medicine. You know what I mean?

Hazel

I do.  That’s what makes you so wonderful. You were able to live that life experience and come to those experiences of knowing that there is more, that you can help guide them to do.

Mercy

What’s interesting, some other people who I’ve interviewed for this show on this certain approach to looking at family relationships over generations, brought out these experiences that were multi-sensory or unexpected. What it really showed was the energetic connections that we have to other people, even if they’re not alive. Or to places we haven’t been, but our family has been. We go there and we have the same experience that our ancestors did. As the years have gone on, I’ve really become interested in the fact that this kind of connection and the energetic connection that we have and the influence that we can have over our lives with the way that we choose to see and how we choose to understand things that has become really important to me. I don’t see it as a contradiction to a systems way of thinking that looks at as much as broad a context of that person in their life. I don’t see it as a contradiction, even though one is considered very scientific. 

Hazel

You are doing a great combination of both to help them find that balance. You are finding a way to merge both worlds to where it benefits that individual. Following your intuition in that aspect is going to always benefit, and that’s your goal. A lot of times you are merging both worlds. Your school learning and combining that with your intuition, with the person that’s in front of you. You can’t go wrong.

Mercy

One of the experiences I often have when I talk with you, is that I’ll be worrying about something or curious about how something is going to turn out. And often when I have asked other people for advice, I might get a confirmation of something I already knew, but I haven’t quite articulated yet. Now my experience with you is similar to that, in that I don’t feel as if I’m being told something I didn’t know, on some other level. 

It sounds like I just go along with you, but that’s not really the case. The case is that because I have talked to people who said things and I’ve said, no, that’s not right. But the other thing that happens when I talk to you is I get a lesson. I get a lesson in how to tweak my thinking in a way that is more productive. And that really brings me peace. My logical mind might say, now, is that really true? Are you missing out on something if you look at it that way? And then, but it’s always clear to me that it’s so much easier to see the situation from a perspective that is positive. I like to feel I can empower people to trust themselves. I often feel like when I’m talking to you, that’s what happens to me.

Hazel

As long as it’s no longer affecting you, even though that problem is still present, it’s all in the way that you’re able to view it. And look forward and allow yourself to do something else, anything else.  I love the way you word it. You were able to bring yourself peace.  Even though that problem didn’t go away, you were still able to bring yourself peace because it was no longer affecting you.  That is always the key, and that’s what’s wonderful about what you do because you’re able to speak to someone, you’re able to let them talk and let them see that the problem is not going to go away, and you don’t need to be affected by it. You’re able to have peace by that. You are releasing yourself that burden of trying to fix something that you don’t know how to, in that moment or saying something you don’t know how to change. You just don’t let it affect you. And a lot of times you can almost feel like that could be simple, but really it’s that simple.

Mercy

No, it does sound a little magical in the world of psychiatry and medications. I think sometimes I do feel like there are things that are helpful to people such as medications or particular treatments or approaches to therapy that are very specific or very specific techniques. I don’t think it’s all a matter of changing the way you see things or feel about them. Sometimes you need some help with that. Wouldn’t you say?

Hazel

I only stay focused on what it is that I’m wanting to feel. And I live by it. A lot of times my family and other people will say to me,  “You’re never sick.” And they are always sick and they are always having to deal with these calls. And I tell them because you’re always worried about being sick. I say that to my sister. You’re always worried about it. And you are constantly sick because that is the energy you’re creating.  I say to them, have you ever heard me say, I’m worried about being sick? Have you ever heard me complain or show any type of concern about my health? I don’t. I will not live by that. So I only say I’m feeling good. I feel wonderful. Excellent. I take no medication. When you find yourself becoming concerned about certain issues, they will start to become quite evident in your world, whether you are wanting to acknowledge that you’re creating it or not. Whatever type of concern or worry that you apply to yourself will become evident. You start to see within your world, you’re creating it.

Mercy

So what about grief?

Hazel

Grief, I defined as holding onto something that is overwhelmingly sad. Is that the definition you’ll agree upon also?

Mercy

Somebody’s grieving a loss, somebody having feelings of sadness because of a loss of some kind a death. Or some other big important loss.

Hazel

I mean, grief is always a choice. And I know that can come across as it’s like, oh my, but this person’s mother just passed away. Right. Just passed away, and they should be grieving, but there is no gain in that. There is none. To continue to decide to cry and be sad is you wasting away precious minutes where you could have made a different decision. It’s always your choice to make. So if you felt that in that moment to be sad, then that is your choice. But one thing, for sure, doesn’t matter how long you grieve you will eventually want to smile. The law of harmony will always kick in. Someone is choosing that grief and that sadness focusing on what’s wrong rather than what is good. They’re giving all their emphasis to it.

Mercy

I had to experience sitting at the bedside of a friend of mine who died. And she and I always talked about how our spiritual relationship was stronger than our physical one. We both felt a little like clumsy physically. We just felt like the spiritual world is much stronger. But when she died and I sat next to her,  I thought, okay, well, Marsha’s gone, but she just left her body. And then all of a sudden I started keening. I started wailing and this kind of funny wail that they call keening. Someone came in to look at me, sitting next to her. And I was watching myself thinking this is crazy because I know she’s not really gone. She just passed over. But then I realized that the, it was in my body, you know, that my body was reacting to the death of her body. And it was a very powerful experience I had, but it was one in which I realized there is the reaction of the body.

Hazel

I define that as emotion. You want to be able to release that emotion, never, ever feel bad about the tears, release it. You’re missing your friend. And there’s nothing wrong with that because of the bond that you made. You don’t want to turn it into grief words, overwhelming sadness. Release that emotion, feel that emotion, that emotion allows you to know that you love that person. It’s an acknowledgement. So the moment that you just described is more you feeling that overwhelming love. And if you felt that love for her, you released to the tears. You felt the emotion of the sadness, but to continue to dwell on that is where it becomes grief. You don’t want to be able to do that. You want to release that emotion and then feel good about all the memories and feel good about the relationship, but always acknowledge that we all have our time to go from our physical bodies.

The physical body is temporary. We must never forget that. A lot of people will get caught up in believing that there’s a certain date in saying that someone died too young, but really no one has a date. A two-year old, maybe one-day old, he dies, you may be 90 years old and die. We are all not guaranteed that, so you don’t want get caught up in grief from that because the moment you’re born, you can die at any moment. No one’s promised 20 years, 20 minutes. No one’s promised that. You know, so you always want to bask in the what is, and enjoy making those love bonds.  Never let grief overwhelm you where you’re living in sadness. There’s no gain in that. No gain in it.

Mercy

I love that definition of emotion. 

Hazel, our time is up and I just want to thank you for joining us today. I always love talking to you and I hope that my listeners have enjoyed it as much as I have. 

Hazel

You’re wonder, thank you

Mercy

This is Mercy Burton Russell of the Remarkable Relationship Show. Today. I’ve been talking to my friend Hazel, and our topic has been the use of intuition in your daily lives.

If you have any questions that you would like for me to answer on the show, please send them to mercy@leadershipwithmercy.com

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